Don’t Be A Hater!

 In insecurity, women

Have you ever encountered a hater?

My own definition of a hater would be one who is incapable of feeling joy for another, because they are too busy being jealous of or resenting that person for their happiness.

Do you know someone like this? Have you ever encountered a woman who told you that she “hated” another woman because said woman always looked so perfect and together – who does she think she is??? You laugh, but come on, we have all heard this at one time or another (or done it ourselves!). Why can’t we just be happy for others? Why do we feel so threatened when someone else looks good or does good? Could it be that we’re so insecure within ourselves that we fear anyone else’s moment of shine will immediately eclipse us and expose our flaws and lack?

I don’t want to be that woman. I want to be a non-hater. I want to be the first to encourage and rejoice with others when it is their season of happiness. In the same way, I want to be a shoulder to lean on for them when it is their season of sadness. Let’s make a conscious effort to be non-haters from now on! I think we’ll be amazed when we realize just how much people come alive when, instead of feeling threatened and defensive, we immediately encourage and uplift them. Let’s set an example for others by spreading love and not hate.

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