LMKTM: Someone’s Always Watching


It happened one completely random day while I was totally and unsuspectingly sitting in the living room going about my daily tasks. As I sat, I heard the voices of my two sweet sons filter through to me from their rooms. Gavin was obviously doing something to frustrate Joey, and after a moment of back-and-forth squabbling, I heard Joey shout in outrage, “Gavin, are you kidding me?!”

And I froze.

Not because I thought the words extremely harsh or shockingly bad, but because that phrase – “Are you kidding me?” – is one that someone in our household has used numerous times in fits of frustration.

Oh, and that someone was me.

How many times had I blurted that very phrase out after being cut off in traffic, frustrated by a faulty computer function, or just generally annoyed by life? And it hit me: my kids are listening – all the time. They hear me and they emulate me, and they are going to pick up on my habits – good and bad.

Parents, listen up! Today be aware of what you’re saying around your kids. They listen to you and pick up on your habits whether you realize it or not. Be sure to temper your statements with that in mind. They’re listening…always.

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  • Karen Casey

    Aren’t you glad that at the most frustrating moment, all your son said was, “Are you kidding me?” I’m really proud of you.
    When my husband and I married *almost 37 years ago, we made a decision that in our family, we would not call each other names, even teasing. I found out later that many people wish they had adopted the same habit because their family members were sometimes deeply hurt by this supposed victimless habit. The “I didn’t mean it” excuse didn’t lessen the hurt. Kindness is a good habit to cultivate.

    • Lis Burns

      That is such a wonderful habit to have acquired! A great challenge for all of us! Thanks, Karen!

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